Newburyport Public Library

No time to say goodbye, surviving the suicide of a loved one, Carla Fine

eng

Includes bibliographical references (p. [249]-252)

no index present

non fiction

No time to say goodbye

bibliography

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Carla Fine

surviving the suicide of a loved one

Suicide would appear to be the last taboo. Even incest is now discussed freely in popular media, but the suicide of a loved one is still an act most people are unable to talk about--or even admit to their closest family or friends. This is just one of the many painful and paralyzing truths author Carla Fine discovered when her husband, a successful young physician, took his own life December 1989. Being unable to speak openly and honestly about the cause of her pain made it all the more difficult for her to survive. With No Time To Say Goodbye, she brings suicide survival from the darkness into light, speaking frankly about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Fine draws on her own experience and conversations with many other survivors--as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mental health professionals. She offers a strong helping hand and invaluable guidance to the vast numbers of family and friends who are left behind by the more than thirty thousand people who commit suicide each year, struggling to make sense of an act that seems to seem senseless, and to pick up the pieces of their own shattered lives. Perhaps, most important, for the first time in any book, she allows survivors to see that they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair

Introduction: Letting go of the silence -- Suicide: World explodes -- Initial impact -- Final farewell -- Stigma -- Aftermath: Blame and guilt: Searching for the whys -- Helplessness: Haunted by the what-ifs -- Roller coaster of emotions -- Legal and financial problems -- Survival: Beginning the mourning -- Effect on families -- Getting help -- Public suicide -- Long-term effects -- Forgiving them/forgiving ourselves -- Afterword: Making sense of the chaos -- Resources: Organizations and resource material -- Support groups for survivors -- Bibliography